You knew the topic was coming so here goes nothing. Regardless of whether you dress it up as infidelity or if you're blunt enough to call it cheating, we've all been dumbfounded at least once by the situation. This is true whether you were the victim of the infidelity or a good enough friend to provide your shoulder to cry on. We listen as women pour over situations where they should have known he was cheating but ignored their intuition. Some of us provide excuses for the man's behavior. What we don't hear a lot of is the reasons men cheat.
Men have different reasons for cheating. This comes as no surprise to anyone. They can have the best woman in the world; yet, they still give in to the urge to stray. Since I have a curious mind I've asked several men why they cheat. Their answers boil down to one thing: they feel they aren’t getting what they need at home. They give reasons like:
She isn’t cooking.
She isn’t sexing him the way he likes it (you know giving h_ad and all that other good stuff).
She isn’t stroking his ego.
She’s isn’t mentally and emotionally supporting him.
She is boring.
The relationship is no longer exciting.
The spark is gone.
Men claim that because they are not getting what they feel they deserve at home, they seek it elsewhere and find it in another woman. Some have been so bold as to proclaim they have cheated because their relationship has gotten boring. They don’t do the fun and exciting things they used to. When she's home, her only interest is to browse Facebook or watch TV all night then go to sleep.
Their answers did not catch me by surprise. Some men are just shallow. Some men say they don’t have a reason to cheat; they just do it for the hell of it. They have a wife who is beautiful on the inside and out and who cooks, cleans and works just as hard as he does AND takes care of the kids. He will still cheat.
*sigh* It’s beyond me why men cheat. Some women say men will eventually get it out of their system for wanting to be with so many different women and they will settle down. This I don’t believe. Men are going to cheat until the end of time. Nevertheless, good men still exist; they’re just so hard to find.
I would love to hear from you. What do you think?
Posted by Charlie
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Damn, if men are this bad, be with women.
ReplyDeleteMen cheat when women get complacent
@Anon
ReplyDelete"Nevertheless, good men still exist; they’re just so hard to find."
She was not implying that all men are bad. Your comment implies that homosexuality is a solution to men cheating and considering that women cheat on other women that doesnt seem like a better option.
I'm saying that everyone does everything for a reason. I'm not condoning anything, I'm just saying there is a reason. Most times the reason is women get complacent
ReplyDelete@Anon
ReplyDeleteI understand your viewpoint, but I also know it is not always the woman. Some men just cheat for the hell of it. Some men cheat to see if they still "got it" and some cheat because they are selfish a$$holes and instead of allowing you to move on they would rather keep you and sow their royal oats elsewhere. IJS dont put it all on women. If a man really did not want to cheat, he wouldn't. Just like if I have my mind set that I'm leaving him, no amount of begging or gifts will change that. He could be an adult about it and approach his woman in a respectful way to tell her he isn't satisfied with her. If he doesnt see progress, he should leave. Infidelity is selfish. That is all...