Rock and a Hard Place

So this time you've decided to put your foot down and move on, because you know you deserve a "REAL MAN"...now the hard part begins. The decision to move on and let go is usually the easiest part of ending a relationship, but actually moving on when your heart can still find reasons to stay poses the greatest difficulty. We here at TWW salute you for your decision and understand how it is to be without the person you love even if you know being apart is best. So here are some tips on how to stick with your decision:

1. End ALL Contact: You may begin thinking of things that only your ex can speak on. All kinds of question's start popping into you head that only your ex can answer...i.e. what is the name of that building next to that statue down town?..never has the name of a building been more important to you; so of course you have to call him because only he knows.

Soon everything is hilarious and only your ex will get the joke so you have to tell him. STOP..this is the time to rely on some of your good friends. I'm sure they could help you with your building question and I'm sure they like to laugh..so put down the phone and share the joke with a friend.

It really is best to give yourself the proper amount of time to prevent getting all caught up again.

2. Respect your Ex: I know this might seem a bit off but let me clarify...you're not the only one going through a break up. Your ex is also going through it, so yes you are trying to let go but some days you just feel like hearing his voice....this is the test of how serious you are about letting go. Understand that you are not the only one trying to let go..so the fact that he is not ramming down your door to see you does not necessarily mean he never cared for you. Constantly calling or mysteriously showing up where you know he will be can be very confusing and annoying.

3. Get Busy: Not necessarily in the sexual sense..although it may seem like the only way to get over someone. When you are in the break-up state of mind the worst decisions are made, not only on the partner but on safe practices. Get a hobby and fight the urge to isolate yourself. Try not to focus only on the break up and your ex. If your focus is only on your ex he will be the only thing your think of and it WILL drive you crazy.

After most relationships you learn things..like what you liked, what you want from your future relationships, what you don't like, and what you won't accept from your partner. Think of your future as a whole; viewing relationships as something that will enhance other aspects of your life. I'm just saying... this may be the time to work on other things in your life.

An aside..break-ups suck but sometimes its easier just to go through the pain than to stunt your personal growth (insert your reason for leaving) by staying in that relationship.

Posted by Straight Shooter