I’ve met a lot of guys in my day who swear that the women of today’s society absolutely don’t compare to their mother. For the most part they believe that their ideal women should be attractive, she washes his clothes, cleans after him, she’s his favorite chef, she’s smart, she listens, is his biggest cheerleader, is patient, understanding, self sufficient…..I could literally go on forever! Too much of a good thing eventually goes bad, so while all of this may sound good, it definitely comes at a price.
When a man grows up in a single parent household with his mother, instinctively she becomes very protective in order to shield him from the pitfalls of society as well as help him avoid the mistakes she made. Seeing this behavior, the guy naturally believes that his significant other should be just as supportive as his mother, just as caring as his mother, just as understanding as his mother, and just as attentive as his mother. So the basis of a good woman becomes his mother and everything short of his mother, well let’s just say…..she will never be more than a “friend.”
I am not saying that a woman in a relationship should not be supportive, caring or understanding, but as a man what are you doing, are you really worth it, what role does your mother play in your relationship? Your mother is your mother and I am not your mother. Far too often in today’s society men have become extremely reliant on the love and adoration woman give so easily and they don’t reciprocate this back to their woman. I think that if you want to be treated as special as your mother treats you, then you should go home to her. The lack of a serious male role model has taken its toll on far too many men because they don’t understand how to properly value and appreciate a woman.
I applaud all woman that are courageous enough to play both the role of mother and father, however I think that a woman is never fully equipped to train a man to be a man, there are just some things that only a man can teach a man. The female influence being imposed on a man during his formative years leaves him at a disadvantage particularly when it comes to relationship.
I understand not every guy raised in a single parent home by his mother fits this profile but it’s definitely a growing epidemic, the downfall of a brother……
Thoughts?
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Post was written by: Complicated Melody
