For peace sake stop letting men convince you that you don’t want a relationship (especially when you’re secretly hoping he will come around). So you just started seeing a guy and he tells you “I’m not really looking for a relationship” OK perfect that’s cool you find him interesting so you agree and you guys have been hanging out. But hold up he then wants to do everything that indicates you are in an exclusive relationship…he even says all the sweet nothings a boyfriend usually does...so you give in and you guys play the role of the cute couple. The problem is that this is a façade, not to the two people involved but to the first person to get caught up (typically the female). This is what I like to call “halfassness” it’s a tricky little thing and some of you probably don’t know that your relationship is suffering from this disorder...but trust me by the time you figure it out it just might be too late. True talk…. if he has not said “we are in an exclusive relationship” you are NOT in an exclusive relationship (its kinda like it’s better to get somethings in writing).
Don’t worry though there is a cure for halfassness and it can be used preemptively. If you have found yourself victim...express what you want and ask him what he wants…who knows it might work out in your favor. However, what is almost certain to happen if you play along with the façade is a rude awakening filled with tears and hurt feelings.
As a woman you will more than likely come across a carrier of halfassness and I’m not saying you can’t hang and chill with him because generally these carriers are good looking and fun to be around…but if you are prone to illness...you should keep it moving…like I said it’s tricky. But if you decide to hang or even date a carrier you should tread lightly; never giving into the head beat. Your best bet against halfassness is to walk the hell on….
I have to say there are times when someone can start dating you with no intention of getting into an exclusive relationship and that turned on its head. BUT the fact that you’re in an exclusive relationship should not be an assumption, but a conversation.
I’m just saying…men will never appreciate the one woman or none rule, unless the cure for halfassness reaches the masses. Do your part.. don’t put up with a half commitment from anyone you don’t deserve it.
Thoughts?
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