Picture it.
Time: 3:53am.
Scene: 2 heterosexual adults spooning in bed together. The room is pitch black.The male awakens with dry mouth.
Him: "Baby are you asleep?"
Her: zzzzzzzz
Him: *rocks her a little* "Baby I'm thirsty can you fix me a drink of water please?
Her: "Why cant you get it yourself? You know I have to work early."
Him: "I would do it myself but its dark & your ice water tastes way better than mine."
Him: "Please honey bunny. I love you"
Her: "You better be glad I love you or else I wouldnt do this."
We all have our definitions of healthy love. Besides extra ordinary acts of love and actually saying it, there are several ways you can tell if the person you are with loves you. My point is sharper than a yellow #2. Love means different things to different women. Everyone is not great at expressing their feelings so we tend to show them way before we put them into words. What we (read: great women) have in common is that we all do little things to show our love months or even weeks before those 7 letters leave our lips. Here are just a few:
1. She sleeps in the wet spot. The wet spot is the worst part about a lengthy pump & sweat session. Nobody wants to sleep in the wet spot. Nobody. If she realizes the wet spot is on her side of the bed she complains a little but sleeps in it anyway. If her name is Belvedere she will spoon with you until you wake up on the opposite side of the bed wondering how you got there. Wet spot only he knows.
2. She allows you to play Madden 2011 for 2 days without complaining. She brings you snacks, doesnt walk in front of the tv & brings you dinner on a serving plate in front of the tv. And on the 3rd day the world wept.
3. She fulfills your weird requests. If you like to eat breakfast for dinner, she makes breakfast. If you have different interests, she opens her mind to learning more about your interests. This is under the same umbrella as trying your favorite foods that make her stomach cringe. Peanut butter & banana sandwiches.
4. She volunteers to share stuff with you. This includes toothbrushes, razors, food, and money. She may spend a night at your place and ask to use your toothbrush. I think this one is totally gross but to each his own. She may also start discussions about joint bank accounts, going half/half on groceries or keeping a toothbrush at your place.
5. She doesnt touch your car radio. As much as she wants to switch your ipod with hers and listen to Beyonce, she knows how much Gucci amuses you. She doesnt complain when your bobbing & weaving in rush hour traffic makes her motion sick. She hates Waka Flocka but learns what it means to "Go hard in the mothalovin paint aggin." Gucci is what she now calls her mothalovin aggin. Waka.
6. Cooks a huge dinner and doesnt eat a thing. She spends hours slaving and sweating over a range & oven to give you a homecooked meal. Great food includes hidden ingredients you wont find in a grocery store: passion & love. Any woman who spends more than 30 minutes and cooks a meal with more than 2 pots has strong feeling for you. Eat the cake. Sidenote: This has nothing to do with an eating disorder (I hope). As any regular cook can attest to, we spend most of our cooking time sampling the food. If its a pretty big meal, its more likely by the time the meal is finished, she will be full from her samples.
7. She prays with/for you. Women are nurturing and we cant help it. What we can help is who we nurture. Many of us have a belief in a higher power; however, we know better than to "throw" our religion in your face. When we choose to bless our food with you (is this just a southern thing?) or invite you to our church, you're no longer just some dude with her scratches on your back.
BONUS: Ladies, if you forget your purse he goes back to get it for you. This is whats called one of the "little things" that matter so much. This is especially important when she is wearing sexy stiletto sandals and the restaurant you chose to take her to has slippery floors. Instead of making her walk across the floor risking a nasty fall, offer to allow her to "sit pretty" while you run back and get it. If you happen to take a nasty fall, think of it as a fall in love. Frankie Lymon.
If your spouse is exhibiting these behaviors, things are getting serious. Its no longer just fun and games. On a more serious note, if your spouse starts to exhibit these behaviors and you know you aren't ready for a serious commitment, communicate that to them. I know women can do crazy things, but you should refrain from playing with our feelings by any means. Hurt women cause major damage. Katrina. When love is done right, its a beautiful thing. It should be embraced and encouraged.
I have this feeling that I left something out. Its one I cant shake. Help me out peeps. What are some of the things you only do for people you love? What are some things you look for someone to do who cares about you? Belvedere is listening.
Posted by Belvedere
Him: "I would do it myself but its dark & your ice water tastes way better than mine."
Him: "Please honey bunny. I love you"
Her: "You better be glad I love you or else I wouldnt do this."
We all have our definitions of healthy love. Besides extra ordinary acts of love and actually saying it, there are several ways you can tell if the person you are with loves you. My point is sharper than a yellow #2. Love means different things to different women. Everyone is not great at expressing their feelings so we tend to show them way before we put them into words. What we (read: great women) have in common is that we all do little things to show our love months or even weeks before those 7 letters leave our lips. Here are just a few:
1. She sleeps in the wet spot. The wet spot is the worst part about a lengthy pump & sweat session. Nobody wants to sleep in the wet spot. Nobody. If she realizes the wet spot is on her side of the bed she complains a little but sleeps in it anyway. If her name is Belvedere she will spoon with you until you wake up on the opposite side of the bed wondering how you got there. Wet spot only he knows.
2. She allows you to play Madden 2011 for 2 days without complaining. She brings you snacks, doesnt walk in front of the tv & brings you dinner on a serving plate in front of the tv. And on the 3rd day the world wept.
3. She fulfills your weird requests. If you like to eat breakfast for dinner, she makes breakfast. If you have different interests, she opens her mind to learning more about your interests. This is under the same umbrella as trying your favorite foods that make her stomach cringe. Peanut butter & banana sandwiches.
4. She volunteers to share stuff with you. This includes toothbrushes, razors, food, and money. She may spend a night at your place and ask to use your toothbrush. I think this one is totally gross but to each his own. She may also start discussions about joint bank accounts, going half/half on groceries or keeping a toothbrush at your place.
5. She doesnt touch your car radio. As much as she wants to switch your ipod with hers and listen to Beyonce, she knows how much Gucci amuses you. She doesnt complain when your bobbing & weaving in rush hour traffic makes her motion sick. She hates Waka Flocka but learns what it means to "Go hard in the mothalovin paint aggin." Gucci is what she now calls her mothalovin aggin. Waka.
6. Cooks a huge dinner and doesnt eat a thing. She spends hours slaving and sweating over a range & oven to give you a homecooked meal. Great food includes hidden ingredients you wont find in a grocery store: passion & love. Any woman who spends more than 30 minutes and cooks a meal with more than 2 pots has strong feeling for you. Eat the cake. Sidenote: This has nothing to do with an eating disorder (I hope). As any regular cook can attest to, we spend most of our cooking time sampling the food. If its a pretty big meal, its more likely by the time the meal is finished, she will be full from her samples.
7. She prays with/for you. Women are nurturing and we cant help it. What we can help is who we nurture. Many of us have a belief in a higher power; however, we know better than to "throw" our religion in your face. When we choose to bless our food with you (is this just a southern thing?) or invite you to our church, you're no longer just some dude with her scratches on your back.
BONUS: Ladies, if you forget your purse he goes back to get it for you. This is whats called one of the "little things" that matter so much. This is especially important when she is wearing sexy stiletto sandals and the restaurant you chose to take her to has slippery floors. Instead of making her walk across the floor risking a nasty fall, offer to allow her to "sit pretty" while you run back and get it. If you happen to take a nasty fall, think of it as a fall in love. Frankie Lymon.
If your spouse is exhibiting these behaviors, things are getting serious. Its no longer just fun and games. On a more serious note, if your spouse starts to exhibit these behaviors and you know you aren't ready for a serious commitment, communicate that to them. I know women can do crazy things, but you should refrain from playing with our feelings by any means. Hurt women cause major damage. Katrina. When love is done right, its a beautiful thing. It should be embraced and encouraged.
I have this feeling that I left something out. Its one I cant shake. Help me out peeps. What are some of the things you only do for people you love? What are some things you look for someone to do who cares about you? Belvedere is listening.
Posted by Belvedere
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