Dont have a cow! Not when you can get the milk for free!

"Whats that?"
"Its Cambodian breast milk & its for sale"

Disclaimer: No 2 relationships are the same. I do not intend to generalize relationships nor do I claim to provide a cure-all for all relationships. This is no "magic" answer to any issue that plagues our relationships. Like a pole in the basement, Belvedere does this for entertainment. Moving right along...

Why wont he commit? This is a question women have ravaged our brains about since the Geico caveman discovered insurance. 

Well ladies have you ever heard the phrase "Why BUY THE COW when I can get the milk for free"? Or "Why BUY THE COW when the milk is so cheap"? 

There are a few other ways to say it: 

*Why BUY a car, if I can just DRIVE it and put a little gas in it every now and then? 

*Why BUY A CAR if I can drive it around the block a few times and never have to sign any papers to take it home?
*Why buy the whole pig just for a little bit of sausage? (I'm looking at you fellas) 

Regardless of how you move the words around, it all means the same thing. Why should a man choose to make a long term investment in you when he can see the benefits right now? Why enter a monogamous committed relationship when you will continue to have sex with him without it?

We are the cow and the milk represents the benefits you get when the cow is well taken care of. Cows require feed, nurturing, cleaning, protection, seeing her through sick times and special attention. Although I dare not compare a woman to a cow, the way to reap the full benefits of a woman is to feed her ego, nurture her pride, protect her from harm and give her special attention unsolicited-among other things.

Here's the skinny: men do not commit because we do not demand it!  If a man can enjoy all the luxuries of being your "hubby" without a commitment, quality time or monogamy why should he change that? Did she just say that? Yea she just said that.

Allow Belvedere to tell you a few things about FAKE vs REAL men:

FAKE men thrive on the predator-prey relationship. They see women as prey which translates into tactics that focus on the weak and injured. They stay away from strong women and the apples on the top of the tree because they require too much work. Further, because they deal with weak women it is easier for them to control the direction of the relationship.

A REAL man thinks with his ego. He thrives knowing he has a strong woman. He wants a trophy on his arm and he finds satisfaction in knowing he put in work to get her to stay with him.  He may have dabbled in weaker women before but he has realized the power of having a strong woman made to love him. He respects her substance and her opinion and his relationships represent compromise not domination. 

Sidenote: Belvedere is still a young tenderoni but in her lifetime it seems that girls have become so loose. So promiscuous. So easy. So willing to satisfy every man who tells her she is beautiful. So ready to risk AIDS, HIV, syphilis, herpes, and a host of other sexual disease. So willing to put themselves in a position to kill babies in their womb. Whats going on?
Think about it, if he can get in your panties before he knows your favorite color why should he care that you like purple?  If you give it up before he knows about your endeavors with school why the hell should he care that you have a final tomorrow?
Ladies, we have to take responsibility for how we are treated. You cook, clean, swing from chandeliers and do his laundry WITHOUT a commitment. You  sacrifice so much of yourself but still allow him to treat you like a red headed child in a black family: "you dont belong." If you allow such things to happen, you must not get upset when he backs off from your requests for a commitment. Why should he? Dont think for one second that you are "different" and the relationship will go any different because you Michael Jackson bad. Hold yourself accountable for your situation. If you give up the goods before asking for a commitment, you set yourself up for the okie doke. Soap on a rope.

Bottom line: Dont just imply what you want, demand it! If you dont want to have sex before he commits to you then DONT DO IT! If you dont want to move in together and "play house" before you get married then DONT DO IT! Dont just deal with bs because you dont want to be alone. Set your own standards and stick to them. Dont think giving it up will make him stay. If he has decided he doesnt want to stay in the first place, you can freak him all you want but he's gonna walk away. 

Remember, if you carry yourself like a sick antelope, Mufasa is going to come after you. 

Do you think its necessary to live with your spouse before you marry them? Do you think sex is necessary to show your mate how you feel? Belvedere is listening...

 

 

 

 

Posted by Belvedere