The One Who Got Away

"He was supposed to be my husband."

"She was supposed to be my wife."

Remember her? She was sweeter than honey with a bit of an edge. She was the most beautiful person you've ever seen. A certified beauty with her own unique style. She encouraged you to follow your dreams. She made you want to be a better man. She was the only woman who's homemade meals were just as good as your mother's.

Remember him?  He was a lump of nothing but sexy. He made you feel special like no one else could. He was kind, compassionate, ambitious and your parents adored him. The mere mention of his name used to send a tingle up your spine. He treated you like a queen.

The one who got away is a special person. The bond you shared was strong and passionate. You both had it bad. Even when everything else in your world was falling apart, the love you shared brought you comfort. You've compared them to everyone you've dated post-breakup and no one has measured up. If you are ever asked "Which ex would you want a second chance with?" their name is the one you would say without hesitation. Dont think you have one? When you hear this Jagged Edge song, you think of them.


The relationship seemed so great but then it went sour and dried up like a raisin in the sun. Stubborn attitudes got in the way of love and the bond was broken. Whether it ended terribly or you saw them on America's Most Wanted the two of you simply ended up on different paths, it doesnt take long before you realize they are "the one who got away."

We wonder whether the love deserves a second chance. We have photos, letters, souvenirs, and fragments of memory. Idle time is spent thinking about *them* and wondering how life would be if things had worked out. We wonder if they miss us like we miss them. If the old love returns we tend to embrace the butterflies...quickly forgetting the reason the love was ended. Sometimes we decide to work on it. Sometimes we convince ourselves it is ok to let it go and sing songs like this one. 

It’s impossible to know whether the experience was about infatuation, true love, lust, or something else entirely. It is crucial that we understand this: People come into your Life for a Reason, Season or Lifetime. 

Today's lesson: Its OK to miss an old love. Its OK to still love them. True love does not disappear overnight. Past loves are a great indicator of what we are truly looking for. Old love can help us find our way to new love. If you decide to revisit your old love, protect yourself. Forgive but do not forget what caused the rift the first time. Acknowledge the past and learn from it.

"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." -Samuel Butler

Help me out peeps. What do you do when you realize your past love was the one who got away? Have you ever pursued the one who got away? Have you ever been told you are the one who got away? Share the deets.

    

Posted By Belvedere