Forget the alcohol, blame it on FACEBOOK

Instructions: Watch the video, then read the post.


The video is not just comedic relief. For many couples "Facebook arguments" have become a real issue. While Tom from Myspace is somewhere wondering where Myspace went wrong, his former dedicated users have brought their f*ckery to Facebook.  Everyone from Aunt Salt to Grandma Pepper to every wanna be model between here and Antarctica has a Facebook account. I suffer through a newsfeed clouded with TMI updates, horrific bathroom shots, amateur models and annoying party promoters. This is all while Zuckerburg and his folks over at Facebook are constantly finding loopholes in the ways they can share your personal info without your consent. I digress.

Facebook has also become a place where you can meet your potential mate. Pause. Did she just say that? Yes Belvedere said that. Belvedere meant what she said. Facebook users have decided to skirt the membership fees and pesky personality tests at Match.com and e-harmony and take full advantage of the open sharing environment that is "the book." Fortunately, the book serves the same purpose many other forms of technology provide: the ability to connect with people. Unfortunately, the book is also a form of courage juice in that it gives people the gall to do and type things to you they would not say to you if they saw you in person. Men conquer their fear of rejection with a message and women  Lets not get into a discussion about the things posted during the "honesty box" era. While our grandparents never had to strategically dodge loaded questions like "why are you always writing on her wall?" or "why are you the first person to comment on his status EVERY morning?"the underlying issue is one of trust and respect.

While the internet makes it easy to use informal language and to do things we would not normally do, we must still be mindful of the consequences of what we post. If you are "in a relationship" on Facebook there is no need to allow random men/women to comment on your photos knowing your S/O can see them. Respect your mate enough to put people in line about what is appropriate to post on your profile.


There is no doubt that social networks have changed the dynamics of our relationships. Do you require your mate to put "in a relationship with" or their relationship status on Facebook? Would you follow your ex on Twitter? Would you block your ex on Facebook once you break up? Belvedere is listening.

Posted by Belvedere 

Why do good girls like bad boys?

A "ride or die chick" and her "bad boy"

First, I want to apologize about the lack of posts recently. My pc went kaputz so I had to upgrade to the apple family. Forgive me? Good now we can move on. 


*Editor’s Note: By "bad boys” I mean the men women know we should stay away from but we dont. They are the men our mother’s warned us about. They are the men who play the dating game by their own rules and if you fail to follow them you will be sleeping with a broken heart. They are the men we know we are not meant to marry, but we fall for them anyway. 

Just about every woman will fall for a bad guy at least once during her dating lifespan. He has a certain *thing* about him that makes us ignore our intuition and drop everything at a moment’s notice. We throw out our common sense, sense of self worth, and sense of direction for the chance to take a trip on the bad boy ride. Opposites attract?

As a recovering “bad boy addict,” I can personally attest to the roller coaster of dating a bad boy. There was a period in my dating life where I did not think a man had sex appeal unless he had rough edges. While I no doubt turned down some great clean cut men, if you did not resemble Damion Marley, you did not get a second look from Belvedere*. When bad boys are at their peak, they have the ability to make you feel like a queen. When bad boys drop off they can take you through twists, turns, and upside down swirls and before you realize it things have taken a turn for the worst. Why would a woman subject herself to this? 

Bow to your sansei, Belvedere presents 5 reasons why good girls like bad boys:

1. She wants to taste the forbidden fruit. Women have been blamed for the problems of the world ever since Eve supposedly convinced Adam to take a bite of the forbidden fruit. Bad boys are the modern day version of forbidden fruit.  Even if you did not want it before, as soon as someone tells you it is forbidden the desire for it kicks in. The more the ‘rents tell you to stay away from something, the more your desire to have it increases. Fruit tastes so much sweeter when it forbidden. Beware of fruit who will ride around with illegal substances in the car because both of you will end up arrested. You will learn what its like to rot behind bars. 

2. She wants to piss off her parents. Whats more satisfying for a rebellious spirit than to see the look in her father's eyes when his blood boils? Its not out of spite. Its not to be mean. There is just *something* that makes us draw satisfaction from knowing we are getting under our parents’ skin. Even if the relationship is not that great, we cannot resist the urge to make it seem perfect just for the sake of getting the parental unit worked up.

3. She is going through a "phase." The last guy we dated was a "good" guy and he still ended up breaking our hearts. What do we do? We date the guy who looks the complete opposite of our last beau. In order to rid herself of all feelings for said ex, she turns to the man who is least like him.

4. She is tired of being a "good girl." Good girls are dry and predictable. I imagine its annoying to constantly hear "I knew you would say that" or "I knew thats what you would do." She is always the designated driver. She is always dressed conservatively. Does this sound exciting to you? Of all the titles you could assume in your circle who volunteer to be "the predictable one?" This girl dates bad boys to help her escape the mundane nature of her life. Her bad boy helps her forget her “good girl” title and gives her the chance to walk on the edge. He opens her mind to new things. This is also true for bad boys who date good girls. 

5. She fears a real commitment. Be careful because we may ride this lie until the wheels fall off.  Trying to build something we know wont work is often a sign we are running from something. We know what the good guys look like. They are safe. They are secure. They are predictable. They will never disrespect you. The more she dates a man that is the exact opposite of this, the longer she can run from making a commitment. Bad boys are often emotionally unavailable so commitments (or monogamy) are out of the window. We invest our time and emotions into empty relationships because we fear what might happen if we met Mr. Right. We offset this by making the bad boys our Mr. Right Now. 

The question I raise today is one that has befuddled blog readers, Youtube watchers, electric sliders and strip club visitors since the debut of the first Law & Order. Perhaps you would like to offer your own answers? Why do you think "good" girls like "bad boys"? Further, why do you think “bad boys” like “good girls?” Who’s Taking Who? The floor is yours...

Posted By Belvedere


*Times have changed. Belvedere loves clean cut men, but she still enjoys a bit of an edge. Idris Elba.